I woke up today to the realization that I was attending one of our sessions at the university for the last time until later on this year. That told me that I had made so much progress already in my training and I felt so happy and mostly, content.
I have worked hard so far and I am still getting there with my studies. I think I did well in my exams and I wanted to share this with someone. But when you tell somebody something you have done and they instead answer you with what you could have done, or remind you of how far you still were from a 100% achievement, what would you make of it?
I do not know.....
I find that sharing your experience with someone is intended to give you an insight into how much progress you are making not for the person to put you down and make you feel like you have not achieved anything. But then again, thinking critically, they could have meant to say something as a motivator not a demotivator.
I had a chat with someone one day and all I did was to point out what they had not done and they got really angry with me and felt that I was being insensitive. It was only later that I realized what I had been doing. From that day onwards, I decided that I would never put people down and that I would speak words and do actions that would make people grow rather than shrink away. I would truthfully give my thoughts on a matter but make sure that I do not tear down some one's sense of self. And I have done that since. So I can recognize when the same thing happens to me and I know when to let it be. (But I must say it is annoying when the only thing someone sees is what you have not done and totally fails to acknowledge what you have - God Bless them!)
Life stinks!
